Truth be told

In the good old days, It used to be quite difficult for someone to admit that they are wrong or have done an unforgiven mistake. More and more though nowadays, we see this not to be the case. It started with Tiger Wood's admitting his infidelity "live" across all states in the US and over all satellite stations around the globe. Then it was the turn of the famous movie director Jack Neo from the Singabore with his sobbing press conference.

Its seems too easy to admit to mistakes nowadays and get away with it. All you have to do is admit you're wrong, get fined, and move on. of course there are the after effects such as the humility, the lost sponsorships etc. But it cant compare to the pain of living with your lie, alone and with no closure.

Even more than just mistakes being admitted and blown out of proportions for the public to scrutinize, the most epidemic of all admission is that of being gay.

Since when was it ok for a Malaysian man to admit his homosexuality in public with pride and without fear of being beaten up by their own parents? I don't recall there ever was a change in our country's policy and law providing for homosexuality or rather any place for them in our society.

Why is it then, that there are so many gays that have come out recently and have taken their rightful place among us normal beings? it seems that the vast number of gay people that have suddenly invaded our population has made us somewhat ignorant to their presence and slowly but surely have made this new concept of co-existence acceptable to the most hard core traditionalist.

I blame our local celebrities for this new epidemic. They have more gays than you can shake a stick at.

It was always accepted that the makeup artist for our actors and actresses would be a bapok, or pondan or mak nyah. Nobody frowned upon them because they feel these are human beings after all and how they choose to potray their image is totally up to them. In fact some people would even go as far as saying they have a condition or a suffering that is beyond their own psychological control. A sickness in other words.

Then came those popular "patah" celebs that would appear almost everyday on popular TV shows and instilled dreams to would be softies all over the country to become the next "patah" celeb.
i'm talking about famous people, like Najip Ali of Asia Bagus, Aznil Nawawi of Akademi fantasia, the loud mouth Azwan Ali brother to Anwar Ibrahim's ex Secretary Azmin Ali (see the relationship?), the list goes on..

I especially have a strong uneasy feeling towards those handsome boy actors who are heart throbs and yet are still confused with their preference. i mean after all those choice of groupies and female fans they still go for guys..

I saw a show recently on tv where the hosts Fara Fauzana and Nana AF1 ask the guest Que Haidar to comment about stories of him being gay. It was so funny to see him froze then turn red and walk off the stage furious. the two host were trying their best to cover up the incident but it was obvious they asked the wrong question. it made me wonder if the answer they were expecting was a different one. I'm sure they didn't expect que haidar to react defensively.

Another common trend in the celeb world is gay friends as chaperons. I always seem to bump into actresses and singers who lepak in kedai mamak or go shopping with their gay companions seemingly trying to avoid gossips or evil rumors of their love life.
Some even go to the extend of confessing their love or admitting to having a "relationship" with these gays so that they can escape gossip, especially those that just came out of a messy paparazzi filled main news inter celeb breakups.
Like Scha Al yahya and Awal for example.


Above all, the metropolitan culture we are all adapting to more and more, have become an unhealthy habit and should be an indication for us to ponder the wisdom and teachings of our forefathers.

I am not an angel and probably never will be, but i know whats natural and what isn't.
So before we start to turn a blind eye on all this, maybe we really should wear our hearts on our sleeves and tell it as it is.